My fiance was depressed due to his failure in competitive exam and his illness from last year. He always had mood swings but we were having a healthy relationship with love. We used to discuss abt almost everything and many times he feels low then he used to come to me and get relaxed. But due to anxiety and fear for future he was not able to concentrate on studies due to negative thoughts. He has been given pexep cr 12.5 mg and neurodin multivitamin tablets to be taken once in a day and now he is very relaxed and concentrated for studies. He has completed course of 3 months for this dose and been given omega fish oil capsule in place of earlier medicine. From last month he has been taking omega capsules. Meanwhile due to his viral fever and weakness his studies get affected and due to this he again get depressed and now he is not talking properly neither with me. He said do not motivate me n he do not want to study and is being negative. He is neither talking with me nor calling me. He just sleep as doctor asked him to take rest after viral fever. I do not understand what to do and how to motivate him or comfort him or deal with him. I personal and love him so much but our love lives really get affected.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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I hope his mood swings are not accurate and real. He is in depression and along with the viral attack it could have taken a heavy toll on his strength and vigour. While rest is good, he will still need to do light or mild exercise gradually according to the doctor's approval. Please talk to him about these behaviours for guidance. In the meantime he can be guided on the basis of these recommendations (you could actually talk to him about my recommendations and give him good support): 'Please visit the doctor and a copunselor along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night?s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don?t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do calisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.  

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